How to Know if You Are Ready to Have Sex

March 15, 2022 Post a Comment

Am I Ready for Sex?

You've got sex on the encephalon, simply you're not sure you lot're ready.

Y'all're not the but ane! Having sex can exist a major pace in your life and it deserves some thought and planning. Anybody is different and only yous can decide what's all-time for yous.

Here are some questions that may aid you explore whether you and your partner feel set up to have sex. You lot may be surprised at some of your answers.

What is the correct historic period to have sex?

There is no ane right historic period to take sexual practice. People appoint in sexual practice at many different times during their life.
Some people accept their starting time sexual experience when they are very immature or await till they are much older.

Questions to ask yourself if you are thinking almost having sex for the kickoff time

Is this the right fourth dimension for me?
Am I comfortable with my own trunk?
What do I know well-nigh sex? Have I done my homework? Do I know the deviation between sex myths and sex facts? (Tip: If y'all feel similar you need to know more, check out the other sections of this website.)
Do I know how to protect myself from unplanned pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted infections (STIs)?
Do I feel safe and comfy with my partner?
Am I feeling pressured into having sex?
Am I attracted to my partner?
What are my boundaries? What activities am I not comfortable with?
What are my hopes and fears about sexual activity?

Questions to talk most with your partner

How practice we experience well-nigh sexual activity? What are our hopes for the feel? Are they the aforementioned?
Accept we had any negative experiences with sexual activity in the past?
Do we have any fears or worries most sex?
Practise nosotros feel rubber and comfortable with each other?
Practice nosotros need protection against unplanned pregnancy and/or STIs and if so, what type will we choose?
Have we talked almost the words nosotros desire to apply for our trunk parts?
Do we expect our human relationship volition change later on we take sex? How?
Are we okay if one partner decides to stop when we are having sex?

What type of sex activity is right for u.s.?

What kind(southward) of sex exercise we want to have (due east.chiliad. vaginal*, oral, anal, etc.)?
What sexual position(due south) will we explore?
Volition our sexual exploration include activities like role play, sex toys, restraints, power play, blindfolds, spanking, etc.?
Is this a casual, one-fourth dimension meet or will we go on to have sex? (For more on coincidental sex check out Hooking Upwards)

Ok, we're ready! Some tips to make your kickoff experience a good one

Take fourth dimension to remember alee and decide what grade of birth control (if applicable) or STI protection you will use, if any. Make certain y'all both know how to use information technology properly.
While having sex, tell your partner with words or gestures about what feels good and what doesn't.
Don't pretend to enjoy something because you're afraid of hurting your partner'south feelings. This may encourage them to continue doing what you don't relish and can stop up pain both your feelings.
Be prepared to modify your mind! If at whatsoever point things don't seem right for you or your partner, finish, dull down, take a break or make up one's mind to wait a bit.
If you are doing something where one partner is allowed to command the other, brand sure you take a safety word that when spoken, can stop or alter the kind of sex or play that is happening.

Useful Tip

Sexual practice, similar whatever other skill, takes do. Endeavor not to freak out if things don't go perfectly the first time. Good sex is a lifelong experience and tin be lots of fun if you lot play safe, relax and savour yourself.

If yous have questions nigh this topic, experience complimentary to contact one of our peer educators. [Link]

*We know that these aren't the words everyone uses for their bodies (e.thou. trans folks), and back up you using the language that feels best for yous.

Concluding Edited: October 2021

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